Shine Your Light Straight At Them

“There have been many occasions when Veronica’s been treated like a second-class citizen, so she understands the bad taste it puts in your mouth. She knows roasted nuts won’t erase the taste, but she hopes the gesture tells the woman that she’s not alone. Veronica has had her ass pinched and slapped too many times to count. The same goes for men telling her to smile, as if the arrangement of her features, or her mood, is any of their damn business. She’s had guys causally lean into her as they pass her in the aisle, so their hard penis presses against her hip. She’s regularly referred to as “sweetheart,” “darling,” and “baby.” She’s paid the same salary as Luis, even though she’s the chief flight attendant and he’s only been in the industry for six months. She’s been leered at by men floating in a sea of vodka tonics, and she’s had work—which she excels at—criticized by men who seem to be simply looking for a sport to pass the time.

Veronica knows how to handle these situations, of course. Not allowing men to diminish her, shining her light straight at them, is perhaps her greatest gift.”

-Dear Edward

Photographer: Leslie Zhang

Is Kindness Submission?

“Was I kind to others? It was hard to nail down an answer. I worried that if I did turn out to have a personality, it would be one of the unkind ones. Did I only worry about this question because as a woman I felt required to put the needs of others before my own? Was ‘kindness’ just another term for submission in the face of conflict? These were the kind of things I wrote about in my diary as a teenager: as a feminist I have the right not to love anyone.”

-Conversations With Friends

Photographer: Leslie Zhang

Earth Day 2021

Yesterday was Earth Day which I spent in nature. This is a reminder to be sustainable with a compilation of tips scattered about my website: get a reusable water bottle to stop single use plastic waste (I have a Brita bottle with a replaceable filter), bring old, tattered clothing to an H&M bin for a 15% discount (no excuses, they take clothing you can’t give away to thrift stores), get a reusable bag when shopping to eliminate plastic bags, don’t litter and RECYCLE paper and plastic. What have you done to reduce your carbon footprint? Via: Ocean Africa, Leslie Zhang & John Baloy