If two of my most basic needs aren’t met, I am the most savage person in the world. Hangry is when you’re so hungry, it makes you angry. I am one of those people who experiences this. When was the last time you were hangry? Literally two days ago for me. Photo: Old Hollywood Fans

Hallow’s Eve

The spiritual meaning of Hallow’s Eve, has roots that trace back to a celebration called Samhain. Samhain is the celebration of the darker half of the year, where we enter winter. It celebrates death and new beginnings. This is a great time to release anything that is no longer serving you.

Halloween is when the veil between the dead and the living is the thinnest. It is believed that the dead are allowed to roam our world for this one night. This is how costumes started, to either ward them off or confuse them. Many use this time to honor the dead, specifically their ancestors through rituals. In doing so one must be careful, as you might attract the wrong energy. Especially since Mercury in retrograde is overlapping with this event. How will you be celebrating tonight? Photos: Super France and Morphe Brushes

Hedy Lamarr Complex

When starting a book, I skim the synopsis and carry on. So I didn’t realize that the novel The Only Woman In The Room, was about old Hollywood actress Hedy Lamarr. At one point crowned the ‘Most Beautiful Woman In The World’, she came to America to flee her abusive husband Fitz Mandl. An arms dealer to Mussolini and possibly Hitler. Hard to believe, but her tumultuous love life and influence (Vivian Leigh and every classic actress with dark hair, parted down the middle, was sporting The Lamarr) weren’t the most intriguing things about her.

Hedy Lamarr is the reason we have cellphones, GPS, Wi-fi and Bluetooth. She was a brilliant inventor who created frequency hopping, which is the foundation of internet based technology. Hedy wanted to be viewed for her inquisitive mind, her world changing patents. But all anyone ever cared for was her beauty. A sentiment I understand.

Black women as a culture tend to be sexually objectified. On top of that, I’m a being who embraces her sexuality, with barely there clothing if I feel so inclined, and free the nipple proclivities. When people find out how intelligent I am, it throws them off. For this exact reason it’s essential that I’m not objectified, without an objective.

I went to top billing elite specialty schools growing up, where I cultivated an appreciation for critical thinking. I also like wearing short skirts and see through tops. Why can’t women be both? Even still from her time to ours, society is grappling with women as human beings, not a political playground, not an object, not second class citizens.

Women can have both brains and beauty. Do not succumb to being one, or the other. Thank you Hedy Lamarr for your contribution to the world, you never got the recognition you deserved in your lifetime. Your beauty was otherworldly, but had nothing on your intellect.

Photos: Clarence Sinclair Bull and Getty Images

There, There

This is super apt since Columbus Day just passed. There, There is author Tommy Orange’s literary debut. It tells the story of the Native American diaspora, the consequence of a genocide that America masks and glorifies. Through various perspectives, the reader is able to see the cause and effect the massacre of these people have had generationally.

Imagine trying to put together the pieces of broken glass. Gathering up all the pieces is nearly impossible, even if you did what tools could you use to put it all back together? How do you do it without getting shards underneath your skin, without bleeding? This is the struggle of the contemporary Native Americans, trying to rebuild what was dismantled and destroyed.

Beyond history class, Columbus Day and Thanksgiving, where are the voices of the Native American people? This book is gritty, thought provoking, heart rending and necessary. These voices need to be heard. Their stories are integral to the history of the American people.

Garment Collecting

What to do, what to do with the clothes you can’t donate? The tattered, armpit stained, dingy old things that can’t be bought back to life. I use to throw what I couldn’t give away, or pass down to my siblings in the garbage. Then I learned the fashion industry is the second most wasteful regarding the environment.

An environmentalist, I kept my recent old clothing in a Trader Joe’s tote, until I could figure out what to do with them.

Then I found out that H&M will take all the contorted bras, the stretched out leggings, the shirts filled with holes…Just drop it off in the collection box at a store nearest you, then redeem you 15% off coupon. Photo: H&M

Flu Fighters

Typical New York City weather, leaves you to believe it’s something other than what it is. For the last few days, week even, we’ve experienced extended summer. Rather what felt like extended summer. The other night I wore a mini skirt, even though I had a leather, suede, fleece lined jacket I still managed to get sick yesterday.

All morning I’d been fighting a sore throat, a heavy head and a congested chest. Usually I bring jeans, just in case, but again it’s been humid. As a native I have no one to blame but myself.

I’d been guzzling turmeric, ginger tea mixed with honey to no avail. So I trekked the six minutes to the liquor store, which in my condition felt like 12 minutes. As soon as I purchased my Jack Daniel’s I took a swig, feeling the sweet relief of whiskey hitting my chest. This, this is what cleared me out.

Whiskey and bourbon have medicinal properties. Once upon a time doctor’s used it as such. Still to this day, they are some of the best ways to relieve and prevent a cold.

Best drink to stay warm and healthy: a hot toddy. Whiskey or bourbon, honey, lemon and hot water.

Happy Mabon

Equinox= equal night.

The equinox that hits us every September is the only time the earth is not at a tilt, standing straight we receive equal parts light and dark. Today it falls on the first day of fall. So what does this mean spiritually?

September equinox is known as Mabon and is a time of new spiritual growth. This is a time of reflection, restoration, balance and gratitude.

Reflect: On what you’ve gone through and what is yet to come. Do you like who you are right now? Why or why not?

Restore: If you’ve been on the go and even if you haven’t, rest. Take a moment to do nothing, but the things that restore you to your most harmonious self. For me thats journaling, watching films, a night out on the town… What do you need to do to restore yourself?

Balance: Is so key, its the meaning of life to have everything in moderation. Take a moment of introspection. What areas in your life are you putting excessive energy (focused too much on finances, work, a relationship, a vice…)? What areas in your life need more attention?

Gratitude: Blessings multiply when you appreciate what you have. We spend so much time ruminating on what we lack, which magnifies the lacking. Be grateful for the blessings you have and watch more manifest. What are you grateful for? Are you in a third world country? If not list 10 things you wouldn’t have if you were. Sometimes something as simple as turning on my faucet reminds me of my great fortune. People in other parts of the world have to walk miles, in hopes of finding water at all.

Photo: Siloqy Jewelry

The Strength Of Love

Did I cry?


In public my throat throbbed while I forced back tears. An amazing story of a man who agrees to work for the Germans in order to keep his family safe. Speaking six languages Lale is promoted to tatowierer. Branding every person who comes through with a series of numbers. He starts to question if he too is a collaborator, but sees to it that he uses his perks to help out as many people as possible, putting his life at risk. When he lays eyes on Gita it’s love at first sight, Lale makes it his mission to make it out alive and marry that girl.

This gives an in depth, detailed account of the atrocities that took place at concentration camps. The most interesting part is the social order amongst the prisoners, who still maintained dignity, love, honor and integrity whilst living in literal hell. One cannot read this book and not believe in miracles.