Rest, Recovery, Reflection

Quarantining hasn’t been difficult for me, as a writer and art enthusiast. Spending time alone to learn and create is the norm. Had this been say ten years ago, when I was constantly interacting with others, on the phone, out and about, anything to keep from being alone, unhealed trauma echoing against the walls of my mind, I would’ve gone mad. I’ve had my freedom restricted when I went to jail for 24 hours, I’m talking no phone, no water in the dead of summer, no cable tv, no ipad, no laptop, no idea what time of day it was…This isn’t that, so I’m Gucci.

My friend Tom direct messaged me, stir crazy, looking for sanity tips. I just couldn’t relate. We aren’t in Medieval times, plus pot makes many things enjoyable. I’ve been that person who validates themselves with the external and how productive I could be. The former led me to immense unhappiness, the latter took a toll on my health. Now my motto is if God took a day of rest after creating the world, who the hell do I think I am? Shout out to Pastor Donna for that little saying.

People should embrace being forced to do nothing, it resets you, recharges your battery, teaches you things about yourself. Everything happens for a reason, so find the purpose in this gift. Time is the most valuable currency and we’ve been given it in abundance, where others have not, how fortunate.

Even though I reflect daily, the world being forced to stop pushed things I needed to address to the surface, that otherwise would go unnoticed:

  • Without trust there is nothing, no friendship, no business partner, no true romance. There were areas in my life missing this key ingredient, I still tried to make it work and now that it can’t I feel sweet relief. If you’re doing most of the work, if the person you’re working with is jealous of you, lies and doesn’t contribute as much, wish them well and move on.
  • Money can’t buy you class, Luann De Lesseps was accurate af. Celebrities and celebrisites (parasites riding the backs of celebrities) who lack complete decorum. Classless swine, complaining of boredom, when there are people dying. This is a pandemic, are you kidding? Lady Di, Michelle Obama, Beyonce, Jackie-O would NEVER. It speaks volumes. Tacky, tacky, tacky. You can feel it, but you’re not five years old, have the discipline not to say it. Respect the people whose likes, follows and money have you sitting in a mansion.
  • God’s rejection truly is a blessing. Thank you for preventing me from further interaction with certain toxic people, the list is enormous. May not have understood at the time, but boy do I understand now.

Are you taking this time to reflect on your life? Are you having trouble being alone because you’re not your biggest fan? Do you identify with the external more than the internal? What have you learned so far? Via: Soul Ection

On My Gratitude List

Just thankful that these two queens exist. Their creations have gotten me through life’s rough moments, happy moments, lost moments and everything in between. That is the beauty of artist. Thank you for you legacies. Just happy I get to see it in real time. Photo: Lawless Bey

Beyoncé 2020 Forecast Is Spot On

Beyoncé’s facial expressions for 2020 thus far…accurate.
January: Something’s up.
February: What happened in China? It’s traveling where?
March: Aw hell naw.

Based on April it looks like there’s some hope, things are still awry but getting better. May leaves me optimistic. Did she nail the vibe or what? Via: BeyCarter81

The Sweetest Feminist

We teach girls to shrink themselves
To make themselves smaller
We say to girls
“You can have ambition
But not too much
You should aim to be successful
But not too successful
Otherwise you will threaten the man”
Because I am female
I am expected to aspire to marriage

I am expected to make my life choices
Always keeping in mind that
Marriage is the most important
Now marriage can be a source of
Joy and love and mutual support
But why do we teach to aspire to marriage

And we don’t teach boys the same?
We raise girls to see each other as competitors
Not for jobs or for accomplishments
Which I think can be a good thing
But for the attention of men
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings
In the way that boys are

Feminist: the person who believes in the social
Political, and economic equality of the sexes.
-Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Birthday Bey

Happy birthday to the Queen. The only person in the universe to have their face bite make international news. Even after you told the world to calm down, we refused. You can’t just bite Beyoncé. There aren’t enough words to express the infinite gratitude for her existence. The way you uplift the black community, especially black women, the way you give us everything, EVERYTHING, when you perform, the constant keeping us on our toes. You are amazing, you are Beyoncé, I am lucky to be alive to experience you being alive. #BowDownBitches #BestBootyInTheBiz

Photos: Beyoncés Instagram

Were Not Really Strangers

“So say something.”
“No.”
“Say something.”
“No. I know she’s not gonna care.”
“You don’t know that.”
“I do. You’re forgetting I actually know this person.”
“No you don’t, you don’t know what she’s been through in the past year, week, or day. Just like she doesn’t know all you’ve been through since the last time she’s seen you.”

Lala wanted to comment on a cringeworthy post a former co-worker made, whose dominating traits include but are not limited to: cynicism, hateration, ignorance and myopic thinking. It was another crab in the barrel remark aimed at black people, specifically Beyonce. In the end I convinced her to speak her mind, resulting in our old cohort rescinding her statement. In the past she for sure would have been combative towards Lala, but in a turn of events she acknowledged her error.

In 18 minutes:
-People are born and die.
-You could have your identity stolen.
-You could witness a miracle.
-You could have a near death experience.
-You could experience the best orgasm of your life.
-You could gain life changing clarity.
-You could finish a book.
-You could make your first business profit.
-You could come into a windfall of money.

Lives are built and shattered every second, so don’t sell anyone’s evolution short. Would you want someone to dismiss the changes you’ve made? I for one am not close to the person seasonal people remember me as.

Who were you a year ago? Name three ways you’ve evolved.