The Sweetest Feminist

We teach girls to shrink themselves
To make themselves smaller
We say to girls
“You can have ambition
But not too much
You should aim to be successful
But not too successful
Otherwise you will threaten the man”
Because I am female
I am expected to aspire to marriage

I am expected to make my life choices
Always keeping in mind that
Marriage is the most important
Now marriage can be a source of
Joy and love and mutual support
But why do we teach to aspire to marriage

And we don’t teach boys the same?
We raise girls to each other as competitors
Not for jobs or for accomplishments
Which I think can be a good thing
But for the attention of men
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings
In the way that boys are

Feminist: the person who believes in the social
Political, and economic equality of the sexes.
-Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Birthday Bey

Happy birthday to the Queen. The only person in the universe to have their face bite make international news. Even after you told the world to calm down, we refused. You can’t just bite Beyoncé. There aren’t enough words to express the infinite gratitude for her existence. The way you uplift the black community, especially black women, the way you give us everything, EVERYTHING, when you perform, the constant keeping us on our toes. You are amazing, you are Beyoncé, I am lucky to be alive to experience you being alive. #BowDownBitches #BestBootyInTheBiz

Photos: Beyoncés Instagram

Were Not Really Strangers

“So say something.”
“Say something.”
“No. I know she’s not gonna care.”
“You don’t know that.”
“I do. You’re forgetting I actually know this person.”
“No you don’t, you don’t know what she’s been through in the past year, week, or day. Just like she doesn’t know all you’ve been through since the last time she’s seen you.”

Lala wanted to comment on a cringeworthy post a former co-worker made, whose dominating traits include but are not limited to: cynicism, hateration, ignorance and myopic thinking. It was another crab in the barrel remark aimed at black people, specifically Beyonce. In the end I convinced her to speak her mind, resulting in our old cohort rescinding her statement. In the past she for sure would have been combative towards Lala, but in a turn of events she acknowledged her error.

In 18 minutes:
-People are born and die.
-You could have your identity stolen.
-You could witness a miracle.
-You could have a near death experience.
-You could experience the best orgasm of your life.
-You could gain life changing clarity.
-You could finish a book.
-You could make your first business profit.
-You could come into a windfall of money.

Lives are built and shattered every second, so don’t sell anyone’s evolution short. Would you want someone to dismiss the changes you’ve made? I for one am not close to the person seasonal people remember me as.

Who were you a year ago? Name three ways you’ve evolved.