Midweek Check In

Monday isn’t the only day to boost your confidence and begin anew, every moment is an opportunity to do so. Believe in yourself, but stay grounded in reality. Get as close to Hottie’s self-esteem without spreading fallacies and delusion. Insanely enough this isn’t even the craziest thing she’s said. It has to be stating her hair was real when in fact an entire track was on full display. How are you feeling about yourself today? Via: Literally Iconic

Types Of Women

I’ve learned there are two types of women in this world, some are mermaids, others are sirens. Oftentimes people get confused, believing them to be one in the same, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Being able to tell the difference is crucial.

A Tale Of Two Sisters is a Netflix documentary, chronicling the sibling rivalry/mutual adoration between Jackie Onassis and Lee Radziwill. When profiling the first lady’s ascent it was made abundantly clear, without her President John F. Kennedy would not have won. While campaigning it was Jackie’s charm that stole the hearts of millions; multilingual and dressed to the nines Jackie could relate to anyone. Receiving this information caused me to further pontificate on the importance of a woman. Not in an archaic sense of sexism, as if we’re objects, but from my viewpoint to determine who I aspired to be. Even stay at home wives appreciate, or depreciate the quality of one’s life. Jackie O, like Beyoncé Michelle Obama, Lady Di…was a mermaid.

Mermaids are beautiful lady creatures who manifest the divine for themselves, as well as their partners. They’re full packages that bring endless blessings no matter the role. One half of a proper power couple. Mermaids are not only alluring, but winsome: intelligent, classy, brave and outspoken.

Sirens once depicted as half bird, half woman in ancient times, have morphed into mermaid like critters. They appear gorgeous and talented, luring one in with song, but it’s all a facade. Up close they are ghastly, fating their admirers to crash. They drain energy, like light going into a black hole.

A simple way to tell the difference is to look at whether your life has gotten better, or worse with them in it. Which one are you? Which one are you partnered with? Can you think of modern day mermaids and sirens? Photo: Clara Berry Instagram

Summer Fall Vibes

Well it’s that time of year, the in between fake summer and false fall. This is how we get got with the flu, improper dressing. Compounding the issue Covid-19. Wear layers people! Maybe this is what Sheree meant when speaking about her clothing line. Are you going the extremely long denim pants, a vest and long sleeved gloves, or the oversized blazer sleeves, with slightly oversized velvet pants route? Which is your summer fall vibe? Via:Black Is King & Hand In Fire Insta

It’s Fri-Bey

I know what I said yesterday, but it’s Beyoncé…period. On this day she selflessly donated $1,000,000 to the NAACP. I love you and happy birthday to an icon, a legend, a queen. Go enjoy your last summer weekend folks. Buying red wine tomorrow for the beach, because Beyoncé is drinking red wine. Via: Beyonce Fan 2.1

Birthday Bey

Black Is King Styled By Zerina Akers

Visually stunning, nothing less to be expected from a Knowles. My only wish is my uterus be as gifted as Miss Tina’s; I mean this is bananas, the talent that womb birthed is extraordinary. For the haters in the back, Beyoncé is allowed to celebrate her ancestry any way she chooses. This isn’t appropriation, she’s reconnecting the black diaspora. Showing accurate representation of black divinity, which is so feared they try to white wash our history and degrade us to caricatures of the white imagination. Operative word try, as in attempted, as in failed. And FYI for the brainless, although the African American was created by the rape of our ancestors, our lineage does not begin there.

Round of applause to Zerina Akers for styling this film. SHE WENT OFFFFFFFF. That effortless cool we exude perfectly captured. I truly don’t know which look was my favorite and this isn’t even a fraction of what was done. THIS amongst many things is why black folks set the tone. Take notes, don’t steal our shit and give us credit. Period. You welcome and thank you Queens. Which look is your favorite? Which do you think is going to be the Halloween costume of 2020? Via: Beyonce 1, Black Is King, Valentine Bey & Miss Beyoncee

Rest, Recovery, Reflection

Quarantining hasn’t been difficult for me, as a writer and art enthusiast. Spending time alone to learn and create is the norm. Had this been say ten years ago, when I was constantly interacting with others, on the phone, out and about, anything to keep from being alone, unhealed trauma echoing against the walls of my mind, I would’ve gone mad. I’ve had my freedom restricted when I went to jail for 24 hours, I’m talking no phone, no water in the dead of summer, no cable tv, no ipad, no laptop, no idea what time of day it was…This isn’t that, so I’m Gucci.

My friend Tom direct messaged me, stir crazy, looking for sanity tips. I just couldn’t relate. We aren’t in Medieval times, plus pot makes many things enjoyable. I’ve been that person who validates themselves with the external and how productive I could be. The former led me to immense unhappiness, the latter took a toll on my health. Now my motto is if God took a day of rest after creating the world, who the hell do I think I am? Shout out to Pastor Donna for that little saying.

People should embrace being forced to do nothing, it resets you, recharges your battery, teaches you things about yourself. Everything happens for a reason, so find the purpose in this gift. Time is the most valuable currency and we’ve been given it in abundance, where others have not, how fortunate.

Even though I reflect daily, the world being forced to stop pushed things I needed to address to the surface, that otherwise would go unnoticed:

  • Without trust there is nothing, no friendship, no business partner, no true romance. There were areas in my life missing this key ingredient, I still tried to make it work and now that it can’t I feel sweet relief. If you’re doing most of the work, if the person you’re working with is jealous of you, lies and doesn’t contribute as much, wish them well and move on.
  • Money can’t buy you class, Luann De Lesseps was accurate af. Celebrities and celebrisites (parasites riding the backs of celebrities) who lack complete decorum. Classless swine, complaining of boredom, when there are people dying. This is a pandemic, are you kidding? Lady Di, Michelle Obama, Beyonce, Jackie-O would NEVER. It speaks volumes. Tacky, tacky, tacky. You can feel it, but you’re not five years old, have the discipline not to say it. Respect the people whose likes, follows and money have you sitting in a mansion.
  • God’s rejection truly is a blessing. Thank you for preventing me from further interaction with certain toxic people, the list is enormous. May not have understood at the time, but boy do I understand now.

Are you taking this time to reflect on your life? Are you having trouble being alone because you’re not your biggest fan? Do you identify with the external more than the internal? What have you learned so far? Via: Soul Ection

On My Gratitude List

Just thankful that these two queens exist. Their creations have gotten me through life’s rough moments, happy moments, lost moments and everything in between. That is the beauty of artist. Thank you for you legacies. Just happy I get to see it in real time. Photo: Lawless Bey

Beyoncé 2020 Forecast Is Spot On

Beyoncé’s facial expressions for 2020 thus far…accurate.
January: Something’s up.
February: What happened in China? It’s traveling where?
March: Aw hell naw.

Based on April it looks like there’s some hope, things are still awry but getting better. May leaves me optimistic. Did she nail the vibe or what? Via: BeyCarter81

The Sweetest Feminist

We teach girls to shrink themselves
To make themselves smaller
We say to girls
“You can have ambition
But not too much
You should aim to be successful
But not too successful
Otherwise you will threaten the man”
Because I am female
I am expected to aspire to marriage

I am expected to make my life choices
Always keeping in mind that
Marriage is the most important
Now marriage can be a source of
Joy and love and mutual support
But why do we teach to aspire to marriage

And we don’t teach boys the same?
We raise girls to see each other as competitors
Not for jobs or for accomplishments
Which I think can be a good thing
But for the attention of men
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings
In the way that boys are

Feminist: the person who believes in the social
Political, and economic equality of the sexes.
-Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie