What Would You Say…

If you received this ring? This question circulated on various Facebook accounts, seemingly disappearing, then resurfacing in my newsfeed, often enough for me to ruminate.

On one hand love should be the only thing that matters. Superficial, materialistic items should be admonished, even sacrificed in the eyes of love, ideally. That is if you’re in search for the authentic kind. In the beginning marriage was a business transaction, a union of status, power and convenience. If anything you were expected to grow into having feelings for one another. Only more recently in human history has its focal point shifted to a soulmate connection.

So would I say yes?

After much pontification my answer is no. I personally want to get married out of love, I’m a die hard romantic like that. To me the person who presents me with this ring doesn’t love me, if they had they would have saved in advance to get something worthy of who I am. I’ve dated broke men, believing in their potential, completely ignoring their current condition. If you can’t afford something better, this is not a time to start a life with another person. Get yourself together then come back. Someone in love would want to give you a rock you’re proud of. This shows lack of planning, lack of financial stability and a future together with more of the same. There are so many payment plans, there’s just no excuse for this.

No shade to the people who have the opposite reaction, different strokes for different folks, different circumstances. So what’s your answer, yes or no? Why?

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