ADULTHOOD IS A S#!%SHOW
Artist: Mike Willcox
Following a cookie cutter paradigm and being indoctrinated by religion and politics, stemming from someone’s agenda once upon a time, are tools society uses to shrink you. Abusive relationships also require you to be small. This is your sole unique life. If the status quo doesn’t suit you find what does. Via: BekaarCreation
Relationships are divinely orchestrated lessons of love and letting go. Don’t force people to stay, they aren’t meant to. Quantity does not dictate the quality of said dynamics. There are strangers who want better for you, over people who’ve known you for decades. When true colors show, accept it and act accordingly. Name a person of quality in your life and a person you keep around due to quantity. Via: LeReveLondon
Stop settling for abusive, toxic relationships, mistaking it for love. Also dig deeper, why are you tolerating this behavior? Where does it stem from? Salt isn’t sugar. Reflect, apply the lesson, evolve. Via: MagicalLine
Find someone with the same convictions as you, be action oriented. There’s nothing like burning it all down with someone you love, for better to be built. Fuck the system, fuck those who uphold it, fuck those who created it. Artist: PhaedraPeer
Pretty much waited a year for this book. It was like stepping into a time capsule and looking in a mirror. Despite growing up in London to my New York City, Dolly Alderton’s upbringing as a millennial was the same as mine. Although she used MSN messager instead of AIM. A year older than me, her experiences were extremely relatable. From the dawn of the internet to partying like a hedonistic rockstar, Keith Richards serving as inspo (read Happy Birthday Keith Richards!). My friends and I lived out our 20’s in the same vein, I too dubbed this feminism, our millennial burning of bras. The search of adventure, feeling invincible, knowing the armor of youth providing regenerative superpowers after a night out was ephemeral. The messiest decade, leading me to create this blog. After commiserating about our hardships a co-worker crowned me the saint of our 20’s, due to my sage survival advice. Which is essentially what this memoir does.
Alderton navigates adulthood and learns love comes in many forms, focusing on her friendships over romantic partners. Not everyone is meant to have a permanent lover and children, which has been the mandate for women due to the patriarchy. Her biggest lesson is external love amounts to nothing without learning to love yourself. Still gobsmacked that she calls the emptiness from lack of self-love the void (me too). How carrying around that icky feeling propels you to do the inner work and evolve into a better person. Accepting your imperfections and learning to love yourself in spite of them. Finally enjoying your own company, instead of looking outside for fulfillment and removing the wrong people from your life, because you’ve changed. Literally went on the same exact journey, same terminology and all. This memoir asks the reader, how do you define yourself and why? Also why were we all trying to be Keith Richards? Via: Amazon
Photographer: Park Bae
Via: VietnameseModels
My purpose as a Divine is to regulate. Period. I have a handful of loyalties, giving me the liberation to deal with people properly. You will reap what you sow, multiplied. Please don’t confuse me. I’m the scary one, possessing both dark and light, decider and dealer of your fates, with copious domains. If I tell you I’m going to kill you, send you to hell, that’s precisely what I’ll do, in divine time. As I’ve proven repeatedly. Taking my kindness for weakness is one of the biggest mistakes you’ll ever make, Kali & Shiva. Via: Vintage Shindig
Do you know the difference? The former derives from inner confidence, self-respect and self-love. It’s authentic. The latter seeks external validation from others. Aiming to fill a void that can only be vanquished when they value themselves. Which are you? Via: WeCareOurselves_