Who makes you feel this way? I have drowned many men, waiting for the one who can swim. Even if you fail you can say you tried, tell the person you love how you feel.
Ingraining in malleable minds of young girls, that abuse equals love and it doesn’t. Boys need to find a better to express their emotions as well. Be mindful. How many of you have heard this growing up?
The light in me
You will find me where we began, the place we were born. Stardust.
Think of all the people who’ve passed away, you still love them don’t you? That bond of love is unbreakable, the only thing to survive death.
I can make you mine, can taste your lips of wine
Anytime night or day
The only trouble is, gee whiz
I’m dreaming my life away.
-All I Have To Do Is Dream
What’s your Thursday mood? This depicts mine perfectly. I love love. I’m in love and all about love.
If you received this ring? This question circulated on various Facebook accounts, seemingly disappearing, then resurfacing in my newsfeed, often enough for me to ruminate.
On one hand love should be the only thing that matters. Superficial, materialistic items should be admonished, even sacrificed in the eyes of love, ideally. That is if you’re in search for the authentic kind. In the beginning marriage was a business transaction, a union of status, power and convenience. If anything you were expected to grow into having feelings for one another. Only more recently in human history has its focal point shifted to a soulmate connection.
So would I say yes?
After much pontification my answer is no. I personally want to get married out of love, I’m a die hard romantic like that. To me the person who presents me with this ring doesn’t love me, if they had they would have saved in advance to get something worthy of who I am. I’ve dated broke men, believing in their potential, completely ignoring their current condition. If you can’t afford something better, this is not a time to start a life with another person. Get yourself together then come back. Someone in love would want to give you a rock you’re proud of. This shows lack of planning, lack of financial stability and a future together with more of the same. There are so many payment plans, there’s just no excuse for this.
No shade to the people who have the opposite reaction, different strokes for different folks, different circumstances. So what’s your answer, yes or no? Why?
Often times we confuse trauma bonds with love. It’s important that you find yourself in a non-toxic relationship, even if you have to be alone for awhile.
Spend forever with me.