ADULTHOOD IS A S#!%SHOW
Seven to nine hours of sleep nightly will change your life. The way blemishes and lines disappear is chef’s kiss, especially when you’re well hydrated. I use to think six hours was enough. Once you get beauty sleep, see how it makes your thinking sharper and skin looking youthful af, you can’t go back. Definition of the best things in life are free. How much sleep do you get? Via: Unsplash
Choose yourself, was the biggest lesson I learned and am applying from the universe. There will be no more self-sacrifice. The only reason the war didn’t get nuclear was due to someone’s offering. They don’t go to church, read the bible/Quran, claim Christianity or any other religion, but put beliefs into action. That’s the part the majority of you are missing. Actions speak louder than words, it shows your true colors. Watching someone be abused, because they’re protecting children, the masses and fighting the Devil, they helped me. Wish granted. That’s how offerings work (read The Condemned Are Taking My Offer, Wise). The rest of you enabled, gaslit, added to it, kicked someone when they were down, defamed, etc. I was your test, how people responded to me dictated their fates. You talk the talk, but don’t walk the walk. At the price of your soul in hell, hope it was worth it. What is the universe teaching you? Kali & Shiva. Artist: Phaedra Peer
Don’t forget to do something to nurture yourself. Burn out isn’t cute. Live a better life with self care, a form it’s health care. Which activity are you going to do? Via: Belneus
The key to life is balance. Thus we have the saying, everything in moderation. We can’t be too self-serving or selfless. Unfortunately everyone, emphasis on women, are taught to be the latter. Society is always trying to dictate how one should live their life, seeking the validation of others. Leading me to remind y’all to set boundaries and stand your ground. Otherwise you’ll be bled dry. Self-care isn’t selfish. Via: MonkNotion
Absolutely do not let people siphon your energy, getting nothing in return. I’ve seen far too many people carrying the weight of the world, being there for others without a shoulder to cry on. Strong people need the same care, check in on them. Strong people, allow yourself to receive the softness you give. Artist: Soleoade
Precisely how I felt when I started to evolve, but the people surrounding me didn’t. Changing isn’t easy, but worth it. I began feeling listless during over everyday interactions, because our conversations were lacking sustenance, depth. We weren’t teenagers anymore, I needed variety and it wasn’t happening. Yes, it’s unfortunate to outgrow things, especially people you love, but goodbye is a form of self-care. Endings bring new beginnings. Discomfort brings growth. Artist: Sarah_Akinterinwa
Just so we’re clear. Abusive people cause abuse, be it verbally, emotionally, mentally or physically. It’s their fault, not the victims. Via: WhyWomenDontLeave
Pretty much waited a year for this book. It was like stepping into a time capsule and looking in a mirror. Despite growing up in London to my New York City, Dolly Alderton’s upbringing as a millennial was the same as mine. Although she used MSN messager instead of AIM. A year older than me, her experiences were extremely relatable. From the dawn of the internet to partying like a hedonistic rockstar, Keith Richards serving as inspo (read Happy Birthday Keith Richards!). My friends and I lived out our 20’s in the same vein, I too dubbed this feminism, our millennial burning of bras. The search of adventure, feeling invincible, knowing the armor of youth providing regenerative superpowers after a night out was ephemeral. The messiest decade, leading me to create this blog. After commiserating about our hardships a co-worker crowned me the saint of our 20’s, due to my sage survival advice. Which is essentially what this memoir does.
Alderton navigates adulthood and learns love comes in many forms, focusing on her friendships over romantic partners. Not everyone is meant to have a permanent lover and children, which has been the mandate for women due to the patriarchy. Her biggest lesson is external love amounts to nothing without learning to love yourself. Still gobsmacked that she calls the emptiness from lack of self-love the void (me too). How carrying around that icky feeling propels you to do the inner work and evolve into a better person. Accepting your imperfections and learning to love yourself in spite of them. Finally enjoying your own company, instead of looking outside for fulfillment and removing the wrong people from your life, because you’ve changed. Literally went on the same exact journey, same terminology and all. This memoir asks the reader, how do you define yourself and why? Also why were we all trying to be Keith Richards? Via: Amazon
Whatever you do with your time off, make sure it’s enjoyable. Self-care should be a daily priority, but life happens. Sometimes there’s too much to do and not enough time for small indulgences. That being said, make sure you carve out some wee time to catch up on self-care activities. Be it 15 minutes or an hour. Choose something from this list if you’re at a loss. How are you going to show yourself some tlc? Via: MySelfLoveSupply
Lesson learned. When people show you who they are, believe them. Doesn’t matter if it’s friends, family, partners, co-workers etc…
You’re doing yourself a disservice seeing potential and not reality. The change isn’t coming, let them go and make room for something better (especially if they have a personality disorder and aren’t recieving the treatment they need). Who are you disappointing yourself for? Via: MirrorsReflectYou