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“I care what everybody thinks about me.”
Why?
“Because I do. Don’t you?”

Sitting at the bar trying to find common ground beyond how beautiful we looked together. Our love was a superficial one, at least on my end. We had nothing that would work, he was a Republican from Long Island, who used the derogatory f word for gays as a common insult, until a few months back. He had anger issues and was always trying to control how much I drank, telling people to make sure I didn’t have another if I’d gotten too wild for his taste.

I don’t give a fuck what people think about me.
“I don’t like when people don’t like me.”

Right then it hit me. This is a man I would pump and dump. There was so future. People pleasers are spineless, insecure and lack integrity. He meant well, but was too conservative. Me, I’m a rockstar and a revolutionary nourished on art and individuality. Taught to use my voice, the importance of critical thinking, to question everything and stand up for your beliefs. The opposite of trying to appease everyone.

If everyone likes you, you’re doing something entirely wrong. You have to change your views and values depending on who surrounds you. There’s no authenticity. Those aren’t people who change the world, they’re the cowards and the sheep. Do you have the courage to be disliked? Photo: Matt Mcgorry