Types Of Betrayals You Shouldn’t Forgive

Not everyone deserves forgiveness. Another distortion by the Devil who verbatim told me I had to forgive his abuse, upcoming article. After doing the most heinous things to me and others. Sorry not sorry, you won’t get away with harming children, murder and sexually assaulting or eating infants. The fuck. Justice wouldn’t exist nor hell if this was a one size fits all rule. Abusers know wtf they’re doing, know your worth. You don’t deserve to be mistreated then burdened by being the bigger person. God didn’t tell Archangel Michael to forgive Satan, he said tko him. Never forget that. Forgiving the wrong people makes you complicit with and enables evil. Via: Your_Mental_Healness

“A Little Life” Hanya Yanagihara

Typically I go into books blindly. Covers have everything to do with my decision to read or not to read. Only when I’m teetering will I read the synopsis. In the case of “A Little Life” I wasn’t ready. Like. At all. The novel is based on 4 friends, spanning their lives from college onward, as they chase their dreams. Willem the actor, Jude the litigator, Malcolm the architect and JB the artist, will they make it in their respective professions? Will they maintain their bond? Initially it hops through each of their perspectives. As the story progresses furtive Jude becomes the focal point. His hidden past unraveling, explaining the reason for his stoicism. A harrowing journey I wasn’t prepared for.

Scraped raw, my soul was scraped raw. Beautifully written, it’s a character driven, immersive experience making many chapters extremely arduous to get through. At times I stopped, because the trauma was overwhelming. Geez. How much abuse can one person take? The author was relentless in descriptions of assaults. Themes of violence, sexuality, consent, ableism, addiction, suicide, “A Little Life” is a stark reminder of how little control we have. 90% of this world is how you respond when things happen to you. Riding the waves means constant humility and surrender. I had half a mind to find and message Hanya Yanagihara how dare you, after finishing. To say the cover is apt would be an understatement. Still digesting my thoughts. Cannot believe the ending. Read with caution. Via: Medium

Don’t Lose Yourself For Someone Else

If someone wants you to sacrifice all that you are, no compromises on their end, to be with them, it’s not love. It’s abuse, that person is an abuser. They’ve dehumanized you into an object they can own. My ex-fiancé use to ask me if I’m willing to make the sacrifices necessary to be with him. The answer was and is no. He’s a disgusting vile person, who doesn’t value human life, be it child or otherwise. The relationship didn’t work, because I had to lose myself to be with someone who isn’t worth two stones rubbed together. If your partner doesn’t think you matter, they aren’t the one. Via: UbetterChooseYourself

You Are Not Your Trauma

Yeah your trauma shapes you, but it doesn’t define you. You are so much more than that. As a victim of abuses, struggling to battle episodes of PTSD I know it’s easier said than done. Even a Goddess can be a victim of the mind, this is a body carrying me after all. I know I’m going through to empathize with people and help them. Experience is our best teacher. You aren’t just the residual effects of the bad things you went through. I’m an artist, an aesthete, a volunteer, a guardian of civilization, strong, a healer, a student, mystery solver, demon slayer, kindhearted…empower yourself, what are you? Artist: Louisa A Choi