Having to unlearn a lesson can sometimes be harder than acquiring knowledge from a new one. Beliefs that are deeply ingrained are often difficult to rewire, because it’s all you’ve known. Just because something is familiar and hasn’t stopped your survival, doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be uprooted. I have unlearned SO many things. What took me the longest is trusting my intuition> mind. Literally, every time I’ve ignored that niggling feeling I’ve failed miserably. Even if my mind can’t put the pieces together, when I trust my gut it never does me dirty; it senses something beyond my mind’s comprehension. Meditation has strengthened that ability ten fold. What was yours? What are you still unlearning?
Once upon a time, at least six other different species of humans roamed the Earth (i.e the Neanderthals…). All of them went extinct except for yours truly, us. A key factor in their demise was our race depleting their food supply, when we migrated throughout the world. We are Homo Sapiens; our ability to work as a team to hunt and gather is how we’ve survived. Together we are quicker, faster, smarter. When I read this chapter in Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind, I gave everyone on the subway the side eye; our ancestors were killers. Side note, read Sapiens if you want more information on how we came to be.
It’s no wonder we are social creatures in constant need of companionship, we crave that tribal bond, it’s in our genetic coding. We need each other, without a doubt. Sometimes the need to belong leads to some low places with low vibrating people. It brings out a lesser version of you, just to feel the validation of fitting it. Look around you. Look at your social circle. Significant other. Coworkers. Family members who might be toxic. Do you love who you are when you’re with them? Are you dimming your light to fit in? Dumbing yourself down? Behaving poorly?
Don’t be a low quality version of yourself to be in the in crowd, love yourself and you’ll attract a better tribe. You are the energy you put out, raise your vibration and your standards. The universe will match it with people who make you feel good. Photo: Were Not Really Strangers
Let’s get into it. Did the person hurt you, or did you want them to meet some standard to sate you? Our focal points being our own emotions, wants and needs, can cause us to neglect the other persons. It’s easy to forget that they too have their own desires, with experiences that shape them. When we neglect to think of their world view and hold them to a standard that suits us, we end up in a world of hurt. No one owes you anything, to expect someone to conform to who you think they should be, or what actions you think they should take is nuts. Looking back, can you think of an instance where you may have done this? Photo: We’re Not Really Strangers
A moment of introspection. Answer these questions for yourself, I’ll begin:
- A mixed bag of emotions. I’m really sad John Witherspoon died, a reminder that all things must pass. Death gives life edges. In my personal life, anxious. Not in a bad way, but in the manner of someone embarking on a new beginning. I am finally moving out of this negative energy and excited for what’s to come. I keep getting all these universal signs of the changes, passing my soul lessons and victory on the horizon. Excited, I’m excited.
- Harvest. This is the time where my patience is rewarded, I am fully healed, I reap what I sow. All the seeds I planted will finally come to harvest.
- My life purpose. To write, to be altruistic, to leave this place better than how I found it.
- Create, to create is the best thing.
- A good laugh.
What were your answers? It’s so important to reflect, its integral to your evolution. Photo: Were Not Really Strangers
“So say something.”
“No. I know she’s not gonna care.”
“You don’t know that.”
“I do. You’re forgetting I actually know this person.”
“No you don’t, you don’t know what she’s been through in the past year, week, or day. Just like she doesn’t know all you’ve been through since the last time she’s seen you.”
Lala wanted to comment on a cringeworthy post a former co-worker made, whose dominating traits include but are not limited to: cynicism, hateration, ignorance and myopic thinking. It was another crab in the barrel remark aimed at black people, specifically Beyonce. In the end I convinced her to speak her mind, resulting in our old cohort rescinding her statement. In the past she for sure would have been combative towards Lala, but in a turn of events she acknowledged her error.
In 18 minutes:
-People are born and die.
-You could have your identity stolen.
-You could witness a miracle.
-You could have a near death experience.
-You could experience the best orgasm of your life.
-You could gain life changing clarity.
-You could finish a book.
-You could make your first business profit.
-You could come into a windfall of money.
Lives are built and shattered every second, so don’t sell anyone’s evolution short. Would you want someone to dismiss the changes you’ve made? I for one am not close to the person seasonal people remember me as.
Who were you a year ago? Name three ways you’ve evolved.