Reason Behind Ignoring Red Flags

In the past I ignored red flags like no other, painting people how I wanted them to be. Seeing their potential, not who they actually are. Trust in red flags, it’ll save you the future trouble of a relationship that isn’t gonna work. Be it friendship, family, or lover. Do you ignore red flags? Why? Has it bitten you in the bottom? Via: Curly_Therapist

Take Toxicity Accountability

Being perfect is impossible, that’s part of being human. We err, but have the capability to evolve and do better. Humans who take accountability are happier, owning your shit and fixing it shifts your energy. Raising your vibration. Ask yourself, are you being the toxic one? Always check yourself, before you wreck yourself, cause it’s bad for you health. Via: SelfCare4Yu

Why You’re Attracting Toxic People

Listen, I’ve attracted my fair share of toxic people and all of these are accurate for me. I had to unlearn putting others needs first, and seeing the good in bad people. Why? I grew up in a toxic environment, believing those traits were normal. Once I peeped the pattern I actively sought to dismantle it. Being introspective pays, see. I’m almost done clearing out these types. Good riddance. Do you keep encountering negative, low vibrational people? Via: Self Care Advocates

Pay Attention To “Friends”

Let’s take it from the top shall we. Now this person re-entered my life lonely and in peril. Absolutely everyone had abandoned them including their partner. I got them back together by telling this person exactly what to say, to the tee. I’m literally the reason they are together. I also told them the mother of said partner was doing black magic, not the third party who ruined their relationship. This person threw out all of the items given to them by the mom and their relationship became pretty much perfect. EVERYONE told them to stay away from the person they loved, but I told them the truth you cheated to get into this relationship this is your karma. I got them on the path to betterment including working out. Again without me, my words, my plan they would not be together.

As soon as this person got what they wanted they became low vibrational again. Suddenly I understood why all their friend groups ditched them and their best friend stopped picking up their calls. DRAINING negative energy. When they told me their friend blamed losing their baby via miscarriage on them I thought it was messed up, until they told me they manifested their sister’s miscarriage. I kept these stories in mind. When this person left me on Canal street (the scary, spaced out, creepy part) at 2am and I had to beg them to wait for me to get an Uber after a lackluster night with their friends, whom they rate higher then their ghetto friends (who are a million times more fun) I decided that was enough. I told Mick that night I wanted to sever ties, he convinced me to stay feeling bad for them. I stopped talking to them and felt amazing, like their other friends I stopped picking up their calls, but they couldn’t take the hint. I gave them a chance because of Michael.

In addition to the incident I realized this person goes on and on about a mundane life, the only time they’re truly interesting is when they do immoral things. They also kept invalidating my life and experiences which is why I posted that emotional invalidation post. Never been to an event in their life, never interacted with a celebrity, but had so much to say when they aren’t in any capacity a socialite. In fact they made it quite clear they hang with their friends to feel superior. Going as far as to berate and belittle their physically and domestically abusive relationships. This person has loyalty to no one from the way they talk, not friends nor family and doesn’t just gossip, but talks horrific shit. When I defended the friend of theirs that I met and like, this person warped stories for me to feel the opposite. The amount of lies this person tells I don’t believe a THING that comes out of their mouth. Then as a nobody had so much to say about Mick, who gave them the benefit of the doubt. I also realized Mick and I didn’t have terrible arguments until this person came back into my life. Just like manifesting the miscarriages of their loved ones, they were doing it to me. This person didn’t even reach their true life goal, but wants to be better than everyone else. We don’t even do the same thing. Then had the nerve to ask me to prove myself to them…who are you again? Getting rid of them by any means necessary was necessary, at least I get to disrespect Melanie, your partner would never allow you that. This is a short version of the depths of lies, hypocrisy, manipulation, callousness this person has displayed. This is just one of many cards I got warning me about them. All my other friends were asking if I’m okay, being what friends should be. I truly hope this person gets therapy to work out their issues. Behaving in this manner means you aren’t fulfilled, I wish them the best but GOOD RIDDANCE. I supported their messy relationship, helping them and they tried to ruin mine under the guise of caring, the same thing they accused their BFF of doing to them. If someone doesn’t give what they receive let them go. Pray for them. Via: Guided By Water & Taror OG

Peace Is Worth It

Change is scary, people are willing to stick with toxicity to avoid it. Why? Because you’ve survived this long navigating the world you know, the people in it, routine feels like security. Another reason people turn away from healing, preferring the comfort of their void, believing it the only way to exist. But when you start making difficult necessary changes peace will be found and not that erratic come and go kind. All the people, places and things I’ve left behind were well worth it. I no longer feel uneasy leaving a room so vapid people can gossip and when the next friend leaves tries to get me to ill talk them. I don’t have to dumb myself down, because they refuse to grow, I don’t question my worth based on adults acting like teenagers and I don’t have to blur my boundaries to make room for their inimical, toxic behavior. Most of all that empty feeling, a deep well of dejection as I wallowed in low vibrational energy is gone. Are you still searching for serenity, but too afraid to leap into the unknown? How much more desolation will you endure before you put yourself first? What do you need to leave behind? Via: Sarcastic Chickss

Pick One To Cut Out Today

Emotions and thoughts shape your reality, talk about low vibrations these are it. Ever evolving creatures, there will always be something to refine. To live a high vibrational life you have to replace these negative emotions with positive ones like: love, happiness, gratitude, forgiveness, self-respect…Choose something from this picture to fix, maybe it’s another low energy that isn’t included. Personally I don’t experience jealousy it’s a pointless emotion (it does nothing for the person feeling it, nor does it hinder the person you’re envious of), but boy am I always on the receiving end (“friends”, a business partner who would cut her nose to spite her face, gay men who have friends they want to fuck, who want to fuck me, hi Roger Chillingworth and your clown ass crew, also the reason I unfollowed that model who thinks he can hang out with people who racially disrespect me like he’s exempt, insecure women who love the men who love me, people who want to be black, people who seek the attention I fight tooth and nail to avoid, toxic family members…this is why I keep things to myself). Be honest, what do you need to work on today?

I’ve been working on the grudge ball. As someone who can efficiently dismantle people who cross me, it can be hard not to seek vengeance. Especially when minding my business. In the past my lesson was to stand up for myself, now it’s about letting go. Balance is key, every lesson has a time and a place. So instead of reminding the basic, vapid, idiotic, superficial people who couldn’t buy the experiences I have, who despite my saying it a million times don’t understand I value the things that have meaning. If I wanted the things you covet I could have them, how is it that you know me again? Exactly. Not only will I have those material items on my own terms, but I have a spiritual fulfillment most of you will never achieve. You’re too focused on the external. I wake up without that void that consumes you everyday and for that I feel bad for you. So I forgive you, gods got it. Hopefully one day you’ll experience this true joy, to know yourself whole. Artist: Sammy Jo

Three Strikes You’re Out

You can only give people so many chances. Even if they’ve done something great for you in the past; people change, things change, once someone exhibits toxic, disrespectful behavior let them go. Personally, I have a three strikes you’re out rule. I’m getting more meticulous with social media as well, I don’t want to follow or connect with anyone who is toxic af, no matter who they are. Energetic ties are everything, so many people have chaotic, unhappy lives due to low vibrational company kept. That shit spreads. Cutting people off has left me feeling light, filled with merriment and at peace. Are there any toxic people who need the boot? Who came to mind? Do you hold on for personal, or professional reasons? Remember a toxic person will turn an inch into a mile, give them nothing. Via: Poets and Writers

Are You Toxic?

You’re jealous of your actual friends.
You want to see them do well, but not better than you.
You only like them when they’re down, it makes you feel superior.
You take your insecurities out on them.
You root against them secretly, not for them.
When your friends accomplish something you think “why them not me?”
You’re competitive, their success has to be outshined by something you’ve done.

Is their something I’m forgetting? Friendship is important, these people are your tribe. I’ve have so many toxic friends, who love me when I’m down and pray I fall when I’m up. Be honest with yourself, it’s the only way to change it. Have you exhibited any of these behaviors?